The Respect He Desperately Needs was the language of love and respect pdf in 2004 by Dr. The book suggests a direct connection between the emotional needs of men and women and a verse of scripture found in the Bible, that when adhered to, can strengthen and transform relationships. Ephesians 5:33 “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Eggerichs had become a requested speaker on the Christian radio broadcast Focus on the Family that at that time was hosted by psychologist James Dobson.


The book was then produced with the assistance of Focus on the Family and went on to make several top 10 book lists and won several book awards including the 2007 Book of the Year for the Family Christian Stores. Other awards include the Gold Medallion Award in 2005 and the Retailers Choice Awards. The book is built upon the theory that the “primary emotional needs” for men and women, respectively are that men need respect and women need love, like they need air to breathe. Eggerichs uses simple examples to illustrate real life situations in relationships and then often connects those situations to the verse in Ephesians and other passages in the Bible.

The book is organized into three main sections. The Crazy Cycle first illustrates that “Without love, she reacts without respect and without respect, he reacts without love”.

Misunderstandings in communication is expressed using simple metaphors to illustrate that men often use blue sunglasses and women often use pink sunglasses during communication. Practical strategies are then discussed to stop the Crazy Cycle from spinning, including the use of scientific findings by John Gottman. The Rewarded Cycle lastly is demonstrated by example using Scripture that “His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love”.

Connecting obedience to Christ in the correlation to a greater outcome in the relationship is suggested. This list is most probably incomplete. The Love a Wife Desires, the Respect a Husband Needs”.

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